If it doesn't help you...

let it go.  Someone gave me that great advice some years ago.  I heard it, but wasn't really listening to her.  Does that happen to you?  I try hard to ask people if they want my advice.  Sometimes, I don't want any myself.  But, this makes a lot of sense to me now.  I am guilty of a lot of self-talk.  Most of it is not helpful.  I am learning, though that the minute I start in on myself, to stop, just for a minute. Just that disruption, seems to let me change direction.  For years, I would make up stories about how something was going to be.  That didn't help either, because, usually, the thing came true.  Now, with a lot of practice, I have turned it around and decided to have the happiness I always wanted.  I am responsible to do that, no-one else.  So lets think about what we need and want to be happy.  All that other crap can go in one ear, and out the other!