Life will be better if we

don't judge the future by the past.  I know we all have the tendency to look at situations and remember what happened before.  I think our brains are built that way so as to protect us.  What happens is we continue to create similar situations.  I don't know about you, but, there are lots of situations I do not want to create again.  It takes some effort to take this new step.  We have to learn to be present.  Being present is a great present to give ourselves.  It entails just staying in the moment.  Just... That goes against about everything we have learned, but, it sure takes the stress off things.  If we stay in the moment, we are fully committed to our lives. And, really, the moment is all we have anyway.