There are at least two ways

of looking at life.  My mother, rest her soul, used to sing to me a song called, "Que sera sera."  It had to do with a rather fatalistic view on life.  It went, in part, like this: When I was just a little girl, I asked my mother what will I be, will I be pretty, will I be rich, here's what she said to me.  "Que sera, sera, what ever will be will be, the future's not ours to see, que sera, sera..."  I think I agreed with that song for many years, still sing it in honor of my mom, but my view has changed.  I now believe that how we think, creates our world.  If I choose to be happy and positive and look for the good, I get it.  It doesn't come exactly in my time, but I get it.  The opposite is also true, been there , wore the shirt, tossed it!  Make a ripple, with a smile on your face, see what happens.