There is "what if..."

and there is "what is."  We all go along with both of these at certain times.  For me, if I go to "what if," it usually turns out to be less than what I want, or it never happens.  A healthy dose of "what is," on the other hand, gives us something we can work with.  Sometimes I think life is a big ball of clay.  If we are creative enough, patient enough, and positive enough, then we have a chance to make it a good experience.  We will get our hands dirty, and sometimes tax our minds, but it will come.  Make a ripple, get in there, see what happens.